jhkim ([info]jhkim) wrote,
@ 2007-10-03 22:22:00
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Agh! Parenting Guilt!
Agh!

OK, here's the deal. Out of curiousity, I had put Night of the Lepus onto my Netflix queue. It's a cheesy seventies sci-fi horror movie starring DeForest Kelly (McCoy of Star Trek), which is known as hilariously bad in some circles because it is about giant killer bunnies. From what I knew, they had a bunch of little miniature sets, and they would herd a bunch of bunnies through them, and thus have giants rabbits on a rampage.

However, when I got it, I noticed when I got it that it was only PG. So, thinking of this would just be cheesy rampages of bunnies over sets, I invited Milo to watch it with me. At this point, it's understandable. However, they showed a body with a bunch of fake blood over it after the rabbits first rampage. The monster here was so silly, though, and thinking it might be an aberration, I didn't stop it and we kept watching. I turned off the sound so there wouldn't be scary music and we laughed at the pictures of all the bunnies hopping around a miniature mine tunnel. However, after they escaped from the mine, the bunnies racked up more of a body count in the town, with more fake blood. I had forgotten that this was the seventies, when freaking Jaws was rated PG. So I stopped it and spent some time explaining about how they did the effects to emphasize that it wasn't real, and we certainly didn't watch the rest of it.

So now tonight, several nights later.

Milo hears a scrabbling on the roof. We have raccoons living around our house, and we've heard them before. Still, it was loud and weird. But Milo is seriously creeped out. He goes on about his routine, but is disturbed and can't sit still. To reassure him, we go out with a flashlight and look around the house, and see the tail of a raccoon disappearing around the edge of the yard. Still, he's creeped out and doesn't want to follow it. He tries to go to sleep, but after a bit he comes and asks me if he can stay in my bed instead.

So...

This has almost never happened. Milo has been pretty much unafraid of monsters as far as I know, and he doesn't ask to sleep with us. But still fitful in my bed, he told me he couldn't sleep because he was imagining the killer bunnies because of the scrabbling sounds outside. The one thing he loves most in the world -- cute little animals -- have now become a nightmare! Agh!!

In principle, I can see a funny side to him being afraid of killer bunnies, but right now I'm just feeling really guilty and I don't really know what to do.



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[info]judith_s
2007-10-04 06:55 am UTC (link)
If you come up with a good solution, do let me know. Our little guy is afraid of monsters. I've heard the suggestion of "monster spray" which is a spray bottle of water, but it didn't do a think for us.

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[info]revena
2007-10-04 07:35 am UTC (link)
When the kids I babysit for have monster fears, I usually just try to reassure them that they're safe, and offer to get in bed with them and read to them or whatever until they're calm enough to sleep. When it's daytime again, we talk about what was scary, and what can be done to make it un-scary, if anything. They usually come up with some ideas on their own for how to make the next bedtime less scary, and then they get over that particular monster fear shortly afterwards.

Don't beat yourself up too much over unintentionally showing a scary movie! When I was about eight, another kid's dad read us a Stephen King story at a campout. Now that was some mental scarring...

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[info]tekanji
2007-10-04 08:07 am UTC (link)
I don't know if this is helpful at all, but when I was little and watched only part of a scary movie the worst thing was not knowing how the monster was beaten.

Like, I watched maybe the first five minutes of The Blob and kept thinking that it was going to come absorb me (which would include much pain) and that I wasn't safe anywhere. Then my dad told me how the heroes had vanquished the blob -- by freezing it or something -- and every time I got scared I could imagine freezing it before it could hurt me.

I had a similar problem with Triffids. I watched that in school (we were in 6th grade at the time) but there wasn't enough time to finish the movie. Even though the special effects were terrible and the movie not believable at all, there was just something about the monsters that scared the crap out of me. I didn't calm down until I went on the internet and looked up the ending of the movie. Then I just had occasional nightmares of me being in the middle of my pool with Triffids surrounding it, just waiting for me to try to get out so they could get me :P

A similar thing actually worked with The Ring. That movie was so scary when I was watching it my chest hurt and my eyes teared up. I couldn't sleep that night (even though my boyfriend at the time was living with me) and so I stayed up and read one of my books for class. It was still scary weeks afterward, but then my cousin started telling me stories about the Japanese movies and novels (which sort of got more ridiculous as the series progressed) and it helped me get over most of my fear. Sure, if I see a clip of the movie I sometimes have nightmares but for the most part I'm good.

But, yeah, like [info]revena said, it's not that big of a deal. That sort of thing happens all the time, and I think it's actually a good thing to help kids to deal with their fears. Not that I think you should try to expose them to scary movies, but it's not the end of the world if it happens on occasion :)

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[info]wiredferret
2007-10-04 03:58 pm UTC (link)
Poor kid.

I think that your instinct about taking apart the way the movie was made is a good one. Maybe some searching around on models and fake blood and stuff like that.

My kids are currently in a co-reinforcing scared-of-the-dark cycle. We have been giving them a pinch of "monster dust" (sea salt) which was sil's idea. I think that this may backfire eventually, but we will see.

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[info]wild_irises
2007-10-04 05:13 pm UTC (link)
Ask him if he wants to feel what it's like to be one of the bunnies, as well as being one of the folks who are scared of them.

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[info]vito_excalibur
2007-10-04 07:36 pm UTC (link)
That's a cool idea! I know my brother saw Alien when he was way too young and for the next several years his career ambition was that he wanted to be one of the aliens when he grew up.

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[info]vvvexation
2007-10-05 05:07 am UTC (link)
When I was a kid, I made friends with one set of monsters and then they defended me against all the other monsters...but I imagine that doesn't work so great when there's only one kind of monster you're scared of. I can add my voice to the "finding out how the monsters were beaten in the end can be helpful" gang, though.

Also, if Milo's anything like I was, he'll eventually be scaring himself silly with movies you didn't even know he was watching and would've stopped him if you could, so I wouldn't feel terribly guilty about having exposed him to this one yourself.

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